Comments on: Question For The People http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/ Sponsored by the Black hand side, Fantasia's English teacher and Frederick Douglass' hairstylist Mon, 08 Sep 2008 14:08:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: lolagetslife http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3362 lolagetslife Sun, 17 Dec 2006 17:58:06 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3362 Well, I can say that sometimes I do know and sometimes I dont. I know when Ive done something truly, TRULY fucked up; that shits so obvious that I cant even lie to myself. But oftimes, I find myself in situations like Im in now: I have no clue. I know there are two people in a relationship, so both play a part in maintaining it. But a few weeks ago, dude started that classic "fading away" you menfolks are so fond of. We finally ended it, but I can honestly say I dont know what I could have done differently. To be honest, Id really like more input from him - what and if I did anything jacked up. But in my experience, in situations like this, they never tell you, so you never really know. Id like to know, so that I can work on myself. I like your blog, so Ill keep reading! Well, I can say that sometimes I do know and sometimes I dont. I know when Ive done something truly, TRULY fucked up; that shits so obvious that I cant even lie to myself.

But oftimes, I find myself in situations like Im in now: I have no clue. I know there are two people in a relationship, so both play a part in maintaining it. But a few weeks ago, dude started that classic “fading away” you menfolks are so fond of. We finally ended it, but I can honestly say I dont know what I could have done differently. To be honest, Id really like more input from him - what and if I did anything jacked up. But in my experience, in situations like this, they never tell you, so you never really know. Id like to know, so that I can work on myself.

I like your blog, so Ill keep reading!

]]> By: youtoldharpotabeatme http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3317 youtoldharpotabeatme Fri, 08 Dec 2006 18:12:26 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3317 I use to screw up alot, and go "and WHAT"? That came from years of being with a joker who did the same. Since I didn't like how that mess felt, I just stopped doing it, so I wouldn't have to act out of character trying to make up for it. Righting a wrong and learning how to perfect a lie took up too much energy. I use to screw up alot, and go “and WHAT”? That came from years of being with a joker who did the same. Since I didn’t like how that mess felt, I just stopped doing it, so I wouldn’t have to act out of character trying to make up for it. Righting a wrong and learning how to perfect a lie took up too much energy.

]]> By: Hostess http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3316 Hostess Thu, 07 Dec 2006 23:19:59 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3316 Earlier, I has a comment and I think the innanets ate it. But in short, yeah we know. And if we give a damn, we spring into action to try to correct the wrong. Whereas men seem to be more likely to stand there like a deer in the headlights when they do something wrong hoping that it will all just pass without them doing anything to fix the issue. then again, maybe they do that because they just don't care. Earlier, I has a comment and I think the innanets ate it. But in short, yeah we know. And if we give a damn, we spring into action to try to correct the wrong. Whereas men seem to be more likely to stand there like a deer in the headlights when they do something wrong hoping that it will all just pass without them doing anything to fix the issue. then again, maybe they do that because they just don’t care.

]]> By: c-ker http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3315 c-ker Thu, 07 Dec 2006 21:50:11 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3315 My comment is that it is usually difficult for us women to identify when we have screwed up and to correct it/ smooth over it in a timely manner BECAUSE the guy(s) will inevitably do something stupid soon after we eff up (quite possibly in response). And this shifts the balance such that we forget/ blow off our need to apologize and make ammends. Basically, we dont have the time to make it up before something of more importance goes down that we "feel the need" to deal with. My comment is that it is usually difficult for us women to identify when we have screwed up and to correct it/ smooth over it in a timely manner BECAUSE the guy(s) will inevitably do something stupid soon after we eff up (quite possibly in response). And this shifts the balance such that we forget/ blow off our need to apologize and make ammends. Basically, we dont have the time to make it up before something of more importance goes down that we “feel the need” to deal with.

]]> By: Michelle http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3314 Michelle Thu, 07 Dec 2006 12:48:35 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3314 I've screwed up before... if i've got him tight around my finger i usually could care less about what i've done cause i know dude will stay. i only act up though if i know i can or if i want out. and that's being honest. I’ve screwed up before… if i’ve got him tight around my finger i usually could care less about what i’ve done cause i know dude will stay. i only act up though if i know i can or if i want out. and that’s being honest.

]]> By: Bulletproof Diva http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3313 Bulletproof Diva Wed, 06 Dec 2006 23:40:46 +0000 http://jacksongtickle.com/2006/12/06/question-for-the-people/#comment-3313 Women screw up too and we know it. We know that we aren‚Äôt infallible. I‚Äôm just writing this from a female [specifically, me] point of view. All this can be applied to either gender. Okay? Okay.) I will say, though, every time I‚Äôve screwed up, I knew what I did wrong and I tried and correct it. I can tell things are bad because of ME, and I have that innate, girly, something ain't right vibe I get. I should mention, that there has been a time when I‚Äôd screw up wishing the guy would just go away though, I disregard any real guilt/emotion about it because I figured that things would continue to unravel. I am not proud to admit that I have acted a total bitch, in hopes that the guy end up leaving me, but we know when we are using this method where he had no other option but to go and try to find another girlfriend. That indeed is a sucky thing to do, but when you know that it's time to pull the plug, and the guy doesn't see that things have flatlined - you have to help things along a bit. umm, yea chicks suck sometimes. *sigh* Women screw up too and we know it. We know that we aren‚Äôt infallible. I‚Äôm just writing this from a female [specifically, me] point of view. All this can be applied to either gender. Okay? Okay.) I will say, though, every time I‚Äôve screwed up, I knew what I did wrong and I tried and correct it. I can tell things are bad because of ME, and I have that innate, girly, something ain’t right vibe I get.

I should mention, that there has been a time when I‚Äôd screw up wishing the guy would just go away though, I disregard any real guilt/emotion about it because I figured that things would continue to unravel. I am not proud to admit that I have acted a total bitch, in hopes that the guy end up leaving me, but we know when we are using this method where he had no other option but to go and try to find another girlfriend. That indeed is a sucky thing to do, but when you know that it’s time to pull the plug, and the guy doesn’t see that things have flatlined - you have to help things along a bit.

umm, yea chicks suck sometimes. *sigh*

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