Comments on: I Have A Question…

By: youtoldharpotabeatme

youtoldharpotabeatme — Tue, 21 Nov 2006 19:30:55 +0000

Karma’s a bytch. I’d stick with Gerald.

Note: I didn’t say Harold’s digits wouldn’t be stored in my cell and a chance meeting wouldn’t occur months later.

By: Honeycoated

Honeycoated — Sun, 19 Nov 2006 21:37:01 +0000

Please, just because you “click” with someone at a party doesn’t mean you should really try to be with them. Everybody’s been drinking and everybody seems cool as hell in a party situation. If you happen to bump into each other somewhere else like Starbucks or at the bank or something and you talk while you’re sober and you still click, then maybe you should try it. All kinds of red flags go up the longer you get to know a person. Sherald should just try to see if Gerald’s red flags are better or worse than Harold’s.

By: Peach

Peach — Sat, 18 Nov 2006 00:14:56 +0000

I’m gonna put a few things on this

I dont date the friends. I dont care if I think he is a match made in heaven it will only be a fuckin disaster. Either I will be looked at like a “pass around hoe” or I find out I was only interested in the “naughtyness” of the whole attraction (sometimes you are attracted to your SO friend only because it just seems wrong) at first it may seem to be a better match, but you could fuck all sorts of shit up. Homeboy is gonna get mad at his friend (not always the case) then how STRANGE will it feel to show up with your ex’s boy at the NEXT party. If something like that happens, it also means you are not as attracted to the person you are with as you thought, and maybe you should think about that too. I personally would have to chalk that one up as a loss, maybe in the future if we were to meet on a different circumstance, that may change things. I say, just dont do it. Too many variables for me.

By: whaddya think

whaddya think — Fri, 17 Nov 2006 20:54:58 +0000

@ Michelle - I agree. Good form!

But for those of you who have an issue with this: Consider hypothetically that it is years later. Sheryld and Gerald have lost touch, broken up, or whatever. And now Gerald is married to some other girl. Boy B and Sheryld happen to run into each other. Would he be fair game at that point for her?

By: dyoung

dyoung — Thu, 16 Nov 2006 16:26:17 +0000

this happened to me one time (in a post-clubbing drunken frenzy, I sat at a booth with a group of anonymous ladies at an all night dennys and ended up focusing on and eventually bagging the one who I thought was the most attractive. When I finally sobered up three days later and went to her apartment to watch the nba draft, I realized that I’d doublely fucked up because I was much more attracted to and compatible with both of her other roommates, who both were also at denny’s that night) Because I was raised right, I ended up just not talking to any of them. It sucks being raised right sometimes. This story makes me sad.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 15 Nov 2006 08:41:58 +0000

I would def. go after the dude b but maybe more so in a “you’re mad cool we should hang soon” type of way just to get the ball rolling. then slowly ease off dude a. but this is why you gotta meet the friends first before you make anything official.

By: Panama

Panama — Tue, 14 Nov 2006 23:15:32 +0000

@BPD: Yes, I’m clearly worth it. I’m glad you recognize.

Luckily as a man…as long as the one you got is fine, it’s usually easy to just chalk it up. Assuming of course she can read. And doesn’t think Iran is what I do every morning.

By: Hostess

Hostess — Tue, 14 Nov 2006 23:12:58 +0000

I had this happen to me. Except me and my guy had known each other a long time. We broke up and I started to get to know his friend. Imagine how pissed I was to find out that my ex had kept me and his friend away from each other because he knew we had more in common. In the end, I let it ride.

Also, I witnessed this in the summer. This girl was crushing on this guy. He kept her at arms length but she brought him to an event like they were together. He was not feeling her and realy only came to scope out her friends. There was one chick he liked or at least wanted to get to know outside of the group. they never hooked up because the one he wanted, after seeing them all, knew how the other girl was crushing on him. He missed out on both women because he allowed the crushing chick to believe she had a chance when really all he was doing was using her as a pass to gain access to her network of friends.

By: Bulletproof Diva

Bulletproof Diva — Tue, 14 Nov 2006 23:10:57 +0000

guys get so territorial - though it’s funny. So where do you draw the line, if guy A spots you first, but guy B makes you weak in the knees on some you had me at hello shit, what’s a girl to do?

do you think this is a case of not meant to be?

I think this happens a lot. It would take one smooth chick to pull it off, and the guys would have to be worth the extra energy to do so. Few guys are worth the extra energy - besides you, of course *snicker*

By: Panama

Panama — Tue, 14 Nov 2006 23:06:35 +0000

@Diva: I’d say boys are boys. Maybe they aren’t best of friends in the world, but they know eachother on more than a passing basis. They kick it but don’t necessarily call one another about eachother’s problems. Hell, I have friends like that…