…but I must first set up the scenario.

And I will also assume that this is largely a female phenomenon as most men probably wouldn’t get caught up in caring too much.

In the beginning, there was rap.

Now that we have that out of the way, let us continue.

Say that you and your homechicas go to the club one day, or perhaps to a social gathering. There are various menfolks there and you end up taking up with one of the fellows. He’s nice enough and you all are enjoying the conversation. A bunch of his boys are there but you aren’t talking to them since you took up with your new manfriend. Let’s call him Gerald.

R.I.P. Gerald Levert.

We need to give you a name too huh. We shall call you Sheryld. Or her, Sheryld. I never pay attention to tense or anything, so sue me.

So Sheryld and Gerald spend the whole night talking, exhange information, or maybe even go out that night. Hey, they’re just two crazy kids having fun.

Let’s say a few days later, Sheryld and Gerald go to Gerald’s boy’s house for a get-together. Let’s call his boy, Harold.

So Sheryld and Gerald show up, and Harold and the rest of his invited guests are there, yuckin’ it up and getting slizzard off that Patron or something.

Or maybe they’re just playing Parcheesi.

You pick.

Anyway, during the course of the night, and after getting to know Gerald’s boys a little better, Sheryld realizes that Harold is WAY more interesting and perhaps even way better suited for her than Gerald is. I mean, she’s really enjoying talking to him and he seems completely genuine and like a completely good guy. Not that Gerald isn’t, but for some reason, she feels herself “clicking” with Harold.

But she’s “with” Gerald.

Dilemma?

The reason I ask this question is because I have actually witnessed this shit recently. None of the folks involved read this…but when I took a step back and really paid attention to what was going on I said to myself, “poor girl, she picked the wrong one.”

So to the ladies, how much of an occurence is this? Does this happen all the time? And what do you do about it? Do you just suck it up and let it ride or do you go for yours?

Hell, has this actually happened to any dudes?? Like you started messing with one chick and then met her friend and was like, “fuck…I totally like her friend more…”???

I find it to be a funny situation actually, which is why I really want to know how prevalent it is.

Also, Snoop’s song with R “I Ain’t Going To Jail” Kelly, “That’s That” is my new favorite song. I love that shit.

Sugarpants, signing off.