Comments on: The Dating Musical Chair

By: Nauwaleno

Nauwaleno — Wed, 18 Oct 2006 02:45:42 +0000

Lisa, Toccara, Kerry, and Lauren

By: Kima

Kima — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 18:37:37 +0000

Yes, Jarrod Halsey, that is the case.

Usually woman who know that they don’t look good get all fired up about men wanting woman who do look good and who fit the general standard of beauty, even though beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there is still a general perceptionof who is pretty and who is not.

By: JarrodHalsey

JarrodHalsey — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 17:36:55 +0000

Don’t lay off the Popeye’s, just run a couple of miles after you eat it.

I wonder how many of the women here that disagree with Panama do so because they feel insecurity due to the fact that they think/know that they don’t fit the beauty standard that he alludes to.

And Panama, Dame. You guys are assholes.

By: c-dot

c-dot — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 06:45:21 +0000

I think the article had an interesting point when they mentioned that women have degrees, etc, etc, and don’t take care of themselves but still expect men to be all over them just *because* of the degree. I think it was very telling that lots of men in the online discussion associated with the article referenced weight and appearance (barring the obviously ignorant complection comments) as things that turn them off. It’s not unreasonable to expect to be physically attracted to your mate, particularly at first. I am in a doctoral program, and a lot of the black women here (there’s not a lot to start with,lol) don’t put any care in their appearance. I don’t see where a man would pick someone who looks like a disaster because she has a nice resume, I wouldn’t want a man who didn’t take care of himself either. Appearance is what gets you in the door. Let’s be honest with ourselves and lay off the popeye’s. LOL.

By: Bulletproof Diva

Bulletproof Diva — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 00:07:28 +0000

I heart Panama!

all my comments were meant to be “tizzy free”, just wanted to clarify that. *smile* Forgive me, I just like to debate!

By: Panama

Panama — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 23:11:34 +0000

@angie: I can deal with being a bit of an ass. I like to consider it apart of my charm.

Or not.

However…I definitely don’t think that every educated, successful, professional woman is unfine. I happen to know quite a few superbad women who fit that description and I assume there are lots out there. I see you all…

By: angie

angie — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 23:00:18 +0000

Even if one takes your views in this post at face value and it appears that you are an a$$hole…I have to thank you for being honest and even admitting that woman are better people then men:). With that being said, I wouldn’t take away from this that you were any kind of a$$. You were speaking reality, not what is ideal. Anyone who denies attraction or aesthetics as something you want in a mate is not being true or probably in a whole different game. Unfortunately, I am a female who must agree with you completely…(Ok, you were just a “bit” of an a$$ in your post, but for the most part, you were right:). And besides, what you think is fine, may not be to the next person…so that’s all relative.
One last thing, please don’t think that every educated, successful, proffessional woman is not fine, this is not true;)

By: Panama

Panama — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 21:37:13 +0000

Dearest “truthhurts”…

Thanks for playing.

Thank you for your pity. I can sleep now. Truthfully, I dont need your pity. I’m good. I’m doing very well, in fact. I’m happy with me.

I find it funny that you think I have a fucked up outlook on the world for (I assume) being shallow and taking the world at face value at times. I didn’t set the rules in motion, I have merely taken what’s laid out in front of me and made an observation. Fuckin’ sue me.

Thing is, your pity is nothing more than wasted energy. So a particular 8-er, marriage material woman doesn’t want me, whoopty fuckin’ do…according the stats there’s more where she came from so I’ll be okay.

How’s that for being a shallow fucker?

By: truthhurts

truthhurts — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 20:44:34 +0000

Add into the mix guys who are shallow f**kers like you and Black women are just SOL. I pity you because you don’t yet realize that your f**ked up outlook on the world will be what makes you miss out on the 8-er, marriage material woman– she won’t want you.

By: JarrodHalsey

JarrodHalsey — Wed, 11 Oct 2006 18:11:23 +0000

I used to be the type of dude who didn’t put much emphasis on looks when it came to a mate. I figured that looks only last so long. As long as you are a good person on the inside, we’ll be able to work things out.

Boy was I wrong.

The fact of the matter is that we all have issues. Every last one of us. And on top of that, we all generally attract people (romantically or platonically) who share some of the same values as we do. That’s to say that generally good souls tend to gravitate towards each other. So for the most part, if you are the type of guy who is generally perceptive, you will avoid the women who are blatantly the golddigger/user types. With all that in place, why shouldn’t you go for the most attractive people you can? One might see this as limiting yourself. Cutting out a less attractive woman who might be your soulmate.

Umm. So what.

We men are simple, simple creatures. We don’t want for much. For every less attractive soulmate (i.e. a person with which I share a connection that transcends time, meaning that our souls will be intertwined throughout eternity) we pass over, there is definitely a fine woman who is just marriage material. I guess I’ll just have to settle for just a lifetime of happiness with a hot wife and worry about the afterlife another time.