They didn’t have this problem back in 1989, lol

Horrified, I smiled sheepishly and place my coffee order. It doesn’t help that he was eight years my junior, and probably never listened to rap (or hip hop) in his life. The fact that he thought he was being “cool” and nonchalant killed his chances.

It was tre uncool.

And this was tre long. Sorry.

But you’d think I’d be smart enough to not do that. Nope. Not I. When girls wanted to let me know that they did not want to do the dew with me, they would just say that I am a good buddy. And that shit was upsetting to me. I mean what? I ain’t even worthy to be friends with you?

I might not know how we determine our specialness but I know one thing we look for. That dreaded damn “friend” word.

Because some women have this way of saying the word “friend” that sounds eerily similar to a rusty dagger being forced into the right aorta and left ventricle…at the exact same time. By Tinkerbell. Like it has an extra “i” in it or something. Something that clearly states:

Friend=Friiend and not Friend= “Friend”

Par example:

Panama: Did you miss me?
Chick: Of course I missed you Panama. You’re my friiend. (note the additional “i” in her statement)

That just lets me know (she knows what she wants out of life) that she probably wants me to help her move some furniture…with her watching.

@Bree: you could be right as well. i never thought of it like that. then again, i just think a lot of women just don’t like feeling somebody doesnt have them sitting on the top shelf…treating them like cuervo when they’re really patron.

liquor analogies are very fun.

Or you could be right.

lol

@Cool AC: Now see all that extra thinking and stuff is exactly why two people who do like eachother might be hiding from eachother. Dude might say buddy cuz he’s tryign to see what she says, but since he said buddy, she thinks he doesnt like her so she just unbuddies him, yada yada yada…next thing you know we’re all drinking Espresso in Milan.

@C-Ker: You know what’s really funny? How quickly you all womenfolks recant those buddy/homie/homegirl statements. It’s like before the words have even left our mouths you hear (in a sort of verbal slap): I AM NOT YOUR #$^%&^% BUDDY!!!!!

Somebody should do a study on how quickly the turn around time is on that.

I ALMOST put chapters in here specifically b/c you said something about that before…then I realized I’d have to re-read it to figure out where the chapters went. And I wasn’t even finna read what I wrote. LOL.

Hmm…that is a very good question…I”m gonna need to think on that one. maybe some other menfolks can chime in on that…

damn thats a good quesiton.

also … did you ever give consideration to those CHAPTERS i suggested? (j/k) –

heres a question: guys also want to feel more “special” in a relationship or dating scenario. i have a hunch but i wonder how they/ yall quantify their/ your specialness.